February. The month of love, romance, candlelit dinners, and grand gestures. Everywhere you look, there’s a reminder that love is something to be given, something to be received, something that happens between two people. And whilst that’s beautiful, love in all its forms is something to be celebrated, at Studio6 we’ve always believed February should be about something more.
For the third year in a row, we’re reclaiming this month as Self Love Club Month. Because here’s the truth: you are not one half of a whole. You are a complete entity, entirely capable of filling your own cup, lighting your own fire, and standing tall in the love you cultivate for yourself.
This isn’t about rejecting love from others. It’s about understanding that the real love, the kind that sustains you through every season of life, is the one that lives inside you. And if I’ve learned anything over the last year, it’s that self love is a muscle. One that needs to be trained, nurtured, and strengthened daily.
If you’d told me a year ago that I’d be writing about self love with the conviction I have now, I don’t think I would have believed you. Coming out of a 10 year relationship, self love became the biggest journey of my life.
For so long, my sense of love and identity was intertwined with someone else. I thought I knew self love because I took care of myself, because I was independent, because I had passions and drive. But when that chapter closed, I realised something. There’s a difference between being okay on your own and truly loving the person you are when no one else is there to affirm it.
At first, it was hard. The silence was loud, the empty spaces felt unfamiliar, and I questioned whether I was really as whole as I had always believed. But through the process, I found something that no external love could ever give me. The ability to validate myself, to stand in my own worth, to build a life that feels full regardless of who is or isn’t in it.
And guess what? Fitness is one of the biggest teachers in this.
We often talk about fitness in terms of results, aesthetics, performance but the real gift of movement is what it teaches you about showing up for yourself, time and time again.
💙 Discipline as an act of self respect. You don’t need motivation every day. You don’t need to feel like it. But choosing to move, to fuel your body well, to prioritise rest, is proof that you care about yourself enough to commit.
💙 Strength as a metaphor for life. The weights don’t get lighter, you just get stronger. Just like in life, the challenges don’t disappear, but your ability to handle them evolves. And every time you push through, you reinforce the belief that you are capable.
💙 Progress without external validation. Unlike so many areas of life where we seek approval from others, fitness is one of the rare spaces where your wins are entirely yours. The personal bests, the endurance, the moments where you push past your own limits, those are all you.
💙 The power of consistency. Self love isn’t built overnight, just like fitness isn’t. It’s the small, daily decisions. Choosing nourishment over restriction, movement over self neglect, rest over burnout. Over time, those choices become your standard.
For so long, we’ve been taught that love is something we earn. That when we look a certain way, achieve certain things, or become the best version of ourselves, then we’ll be deserving of love, whether from others or ourselves.
But that’s backwards. Self love isn’t the reward at the finish line. It’s the thing that gets you there.
You don’t wait to love yourself until you reach your goal weight, until you feel confident, until life feels perfect. You love yourself now. You build the habits, you show up, you honour your body and mind, and through those actions, you reinforce your worth every single day.
So this February, instead of asking “Who’s buying me flowers?” ask
💙 How am I nurturing myself?
💙 What am I doing to build a strong, healthy, fulfilled life for me?
💙 Am I showing up for myself the way I show up for others?
And if the answer isn’t quite where you want it to be, let this be your reminder. Self love isn’t just a feeling, it’s an action, a practice, a process.
This month at Studio6, we’re celebrating that. Workouts that empower, conversations that uplift, and a whole lot of reminders that YOU are your greatest love story.
Lots of love,
Abbi, founder of Studio6
